"Sex is Good, it's a Gift From God, it's Worth the Wait."
These are the words I heard at age 15, from my fellow efy attendee. Her parents had drilled this philosophy into her mind, and the statement rings true today. We learn from sex therapist, Laura Botherson, that it is important to speak to ones child about sex at key phases in the child's life. Before the age of eight, before puberty, and before marriage. The parents attitudes and beliefs about sex greatly influence the understanding and comfort of the child.
I find this concept to be true, as I reflect on an experience I had babysitting a young family many years ago. There were two small children, Johnny and Jill, both under the age of six. There attitudes and beliefs towards sexuality and gender differences were positive. They were comfortable with topics most children would shy away from, and it was obvious to me that their parents had done an excellent job being "normal with them" about sex. Of course, to an appropriate level, seeing as they were so young.
The observations made by Doctor Botherson, strongly suggest that children will have a better sex life after marriage, if their parents adequately prepare them in their adolescent years. Sex can be a taboo topic in Mormon culture which many parents dance around, and often avoid. This leaves the children with a serious lack of understanding, regarding sexuality, and the important role it plays within marriage.
We would do well to appropriately educate our children on this topic, just as we would on any other topic, such as the importance of selflessness, thrift, or covenant keeping in marriage. Each facet plays an integral role in marital success, and each should be taught to the child with care and consideration.
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I find this concept to be true, as I reflect on an experience I had babysitting a young family many years ago. There were two small children, Johnny and Jill, both under the age of six. There attitudes and beliefs towards sexuality and gender differences were positive. They were comfortable with topics most children would shy away from, and it was obvious to me that their parents had done an excellent job being "normal with them" about sex. Of course, to an appropriate level, seeing as they were so young.
The observations made by Doctor Botherson, strongly suggest that children will have a better sex life after marriage, if their parents adequately prepare them in their adolescent years. Sex can be a taboo topic in Mormon culture which many parents dance around, and often avoid. This leaves the children with a serious lack of understanding, regarding sexuality, and the important role it plays within marriage.
We would do well to appropriately educate our children on this topic, just as we would on any other topic, such as the importance of selflessness, thrift, or covenant keeping in marriage. Each facet plays an integral role in marital success, and each should be taught to the child with care and consideration.
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